Are you having trouble bonding with your teenage daughter? Does she seem distant? Are you not able to ‘connect with her’ any longer? Read further to see how the following 5 steps can help you develop a deep bond with your daughter.
Talk About Being a Friend
Once your daughter enters her teenage, she is looking for a friend to confide her secrets and worries to; try to be that person. Encourage her to share things with you; talk to her as a friend and make her comfortable enough to share her problems with you.
Don’t Judge Her or Her Friends
You have been there too; so don’t judge her (or the company she hangs out with). At the age which she is in, she might get too influenced by the people around her, the stuff she sees in the media and other things. As she grows up, she will understand what is right for her and what is not; gently guide her to that direction instead of being harsh on her.
Let Her Define Her Boundaries
She is experiencing new-found confidence and independence; hence, naturally, she would like to push her boundaries, see how far she can go. Encourage her to go beyond the mental barrier she has set for herself, however, also strictly stress upon the fact that nothing should come at the cost of her safety. Teach her how to evaluate every step she takes; guide her in defining her own boundaries.
Instil a Positive Body Image in Her
Instilling a positive body image in her is of utmost importance. Make sure that you never equate a particular body type with ‘being beautiful’; instead teach her that she should aim for a ‘healthy body’ and that her physical appearance does not determine who she is; she is way more than her looks.
Talk to your daughter about puberty and the changes her body undergoes during her menstrual cycle. Teach her that it is a completely natural and healthy process; gifting her a period starter-pack is a great idea in welcoming her to womanhood. Teach her how to maintain hygiene and be healthy and fit.
Teach Her to Deal with Attention from Boys
She might suddenly find herself getting a lot of attention from boys. If you have been able to become her friend and confidant then she would surely confide her confusions and feelings on the same. Deal with such issues by sharing your own experiences; don’t preach her as she would simply dismiss it. Remind her that her primary focus should be her life and to achieve the goals she has set for herself; however, on the side lines, hanging out with friends and having fun is also important as these years are the prime years of her life. Teach her to create a balance in her life.
Try to be your daughter’s best-friend; go beyond being her mother!